According to New York-based neuropsychologist Sanam Hafeez, a psychologist, questions can promote intimacy in a relationship because it creates an opportunity for deeper connection, vulnerability, and understanding.

“By asking meaningful questions and actively listening to your partner’s answers, you create space for them to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences with you. This mutual exchange can help build trust and strengthen your emotional connection. In the same way, by answering questions, you open yourself up to your partner and allow him to get to know you on a deeper level,” Hafiz explains to mindbodygreen.

So what questions do you ask? Here are a few to get you started.