You may have heard this advice before: get out of your comfort zone! The more you practice the things that make you uncomfortable, the less they will have over you. “Try the things you’re afraid of, and if it doesn’t work, it’s not that deep,” Fenet explains.

Of course, this is easier said than done, but you can start small. For example, if you’re afraid of public speaking, try participating more in work meetings, sign up for a panel, or join a committee. “Something that will make you speak in front of other people,” shares Fenet. “When you’re away from home, PTA is an easy way to socialize every week.”

Essence? If you are afraid of something, force yourself to do it, says Fenet. “You don’t have to do it at scale. You don’t have to go on stage in front of 1,000 people tonight, but get up in front of two or three people and practice speaking,” she adds. “Learn what it’s like to get an adrenaline rush and it won’t be so bad next time. And then just keep doing it.”